About Louw Alberts

Louw Alberts has been in private practice specializing in marriage and relationship counselling for a number of years. He obtained his B-Honours at the University of Pretoria and his master’s degree in Psychology at the internationally recognized London Metropolitan University. Louw Alberts also completed a degree in Practical Psychometry at the University of Johannesburg so that more in-depth instruments can be used in assisting him to be an integrative marriage and relationship counsellor

The two stages of a marriage or relationship

There are two marriage stages that exist for couples. Marriage stage 1 and 2 Below, we investigate the qualities of each. Stage 1 The main function in this marriage stage is to form attachment with our partner. In order to do this, we subconsciously do two things: we overemphasise our commonalities, and we minimise our [...]

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Signs of Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

Abuse, in any form is unacceptable. Emotional abuse, unlike other forms of abuse, is difficult to diagnose because it leaves no physical scarring. Many people are unaware that they are victims of emotional abuse. Other people are aware of the abuse, but put up with it because of the love that they have for their [...]

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Communicating in an Introvert-Extrovert Relationship

We have all heard the saying “opposites attract”, but in reality this isn’t always the easiest thing to negotiate in a relationship. Being in an introvert-extrovert relationship can be wonderful in the beginning, as you both grow and learn from each other. Over-time it can become frustrating and cause you to question how compatible you [...]

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How to deal with workplace stress

Workplace stress is common, and has adverse effects for both employees and companies. While work-based stress can be overwhelming, there various ways in which to deal with stress at work. Identify sources of workplace stress Before dealing with stress, it is necessary to be able to identify the cause of the stress. Employees can identify [...]

By |July 3rd, 2016|stress counselling|Comments Off on How to deal with workplace stress

Relationship Issues and how to Solve Them

Every couple will experience relationship issues at some point. It is how these issues are dealt with that can make or break the relationship. The important thing is to try and find a solution that works for both partners when they experience relationship issues. To avoid facing the same relationship later on, it is important [...]

By |July 3rd, 2016|relationship counselling|Comments Off on Relationship Issues and how to Solve Them

Relationship advice for ending a toxic relationship

When you’re in a toxic relationship you can feel like you are on a roller coaster, with extreme highs and lows. No relationship is all bad, or all toxic, and it is those good moments that keep you going back. Maybe the person will change, maybe you can work on things together, maybe it will [...]

By |June 20th, 2016|absuive relationships|Comments Off on Relationship advice for ending a toxic relationship

The ten most common marriage problems (part 2)

As discussed in ‘The Ten Most Common Marriage Problems (Part 1)’, every marriage faces certain trials and tribulations. The following five marriage problems are some of the most common, together with those dealt with in part one of this article, that couples face. A lack of trust There are a number of things that can [...]

By |June 20th, 2016|marriage counselling|Comments Off on The ten most common marriage problems (part 2)

The ten most common marriage problems (part 1)

Marriage problems are a part of being married, and more often than not unavoidable. It is being prepared for them and knowing how to solve them though, that can save a marriage. The most successful marriages are not the ones who seemingly experience no issues, but those who take the time and the effort to [...]

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Domestic violence, domestic abuse is about controlling the partner

Domestic abuse, or spousal abuse is perpetuated when one of the partners in a romantic relationship or marriage exerts power and control over the other partner. Domestic violence occurs when domestic abuse comprises physical violence. Likewise, domestic violence happens when an intimate partner uses physical force against the other partner in a manner that hurts [...]

By |May 31st, 2016|absuive relationships|Comments Off on Domestic violence, domestic abuse is about controlling the partner

Important relationship questions to ask before committing to a relationship

It’s always exciting to meet a new love interest about whom you can spend your day imagining your future together. However, it’s important to ask a few important relationship questions before jump into a relationship with that person. It is important that you truly know, not only the other person, but yourself and what you [...]

By |May 31st, 2016|premaritial counselling, relationship counselling|Comments Off on Important relationship questions to ask before committing to a relationship

Why people stay in situations of domestic abuse

Leaving situations of domestic abuse is not easy. In fact, at times it is near impossible. It is important not to judge yourself or a loved one for not leaving an abusive relationship, as on average it takes seven times before an individual can stay away from a relationship that contains domestic abuse. It is [...]

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Emotional abuse in a relationship—30 signs of which to be aware

Emotional abuse in a relationship can be dire to a person’s self-confidence. Unlike physical abuse though, emotional abuse can be difficult to detect and often both the abuser and the victim can be completely unaware that emotional abuse is a part of their relationship. Emotional abuse is as often perpetrated by women, as it is [...]

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Communication without arguing

The art of communication is vital to thriving in the modern world. It is impossible to completely put an end to arguments, but a constructive disagreement can be useful in any relationship in order to grow and learn about various issues. Communication can make or break a relationship, and is thus a skill well worth [...]

By |April 28th, 2016|communication|Comments Off on Communication without arguing

Relationship advice for an abusive relationship

Because of the various intersections that are at play in an abusive relationship, or domestic abuse, relationship advice can often seem easier said than done. If you feel like you are in an abusive relationship, but unsure, it can be useful to seek help and guidance from a therapist. Before looking for relationship advice though, [...]

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Couples counselling for when you’re drifting apart

The stressful demands of a modern lifestyle can have dire effects on a relationship. We are so busy with work and children and trying to squeeze in some time for ourselves, that we often forget about the needs of our relationship. Eventually we find that we have drifted apart from our partner and are considering [...]

By |April 25th, 2016|couples counselling|Comments Off on Couples counselling for when you’re drifting apart

The basics of family therapy

Family therapy is a form of psychological therapy that helps family members to resolve conflicts, better their relationships and improve communication. Therapy for families is premised on the belief that the family unit is a unique social system with its own methods of communication and structure. According to this model of therapy, patterns are determined [...]

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The benefits of premarital counselling centurion

Marriage Counselling There are a plethora of reasons why a marriage can end in divorce. Infidelity, communication issues, financial issues and differences of opinions with regards to child rearing being some of the reasons. Premarital counselling can help a couple to sort out these issues, amongst others, before they arise. The earlier a [...]

Psychology and Biology of Infidelity: Looking at Why Men and Women Cheat on their Partners

  Infidelity, an issue that is frequently dealt with in relationship counselling, is a leading cause of divorce, and as such has been studied extensively by social scientists over the last two decades. Heartbroken, the cheated are desperate to know why their spouse did it, how they’re supposed to move on, and whether monogamy is [...]

By |April 1st, 2016|couples counselling, divorce counselling, relationship counselling|Comments Off on Psychology and Biology of Infidelity: Looking at Why Men and Women Cheat on their Partners

Get marriage counselling before divorce is an option

Marriage counselling works to assist couples to understand and improve their relationship. Marriage counselling, also referred to as couples therapy or relationship counselling, is a type of psychotherapy that gives couples the skill set to better communicate, problem solve, negotiate differences, and even argue in a healthier more constructive way. Premarital counselling, on the other [...]

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How does divorce affect young children?

Every child is different, and with all families, the dynamics and situations will be different. It is, therefore, impossible to say how a child will be affected by divorce; however, the following is a guideline of how children are likely to react. How a child reacts to divorce will largely depend on the age of [...]

By |April 1st, 2016|divorce counselling|Comments Off on How does divorce affect young children?